What is true, researchers have found, is that cultural opposition to rape myths makes men less likely to commit assault, and acceptance of those myths makes sexual assault more likely.
This piece first appeared in the Guardian, by Jill Filipovic:
When do we get to stop calling someone a “good man” (or, for that matter, a “good woman”)? And how do we actually stop rape?
Those are just two of the questions being raised by the internet argument du jour, which started when the website the Good Men Project put up a post by writer Alyssa Royse titled “Nice Guys Commit Rape Too.” The gist of Royse’s piece is that one of her friends – a nice guy, she says – raped a woman in their social circle. The man admits that he penetrated the woman while she was sleeping, but says he was confused by the “mixed signals” the woman sent him. She apparently flirted “aggressively” and touched his hair and talked about her own sexuality, which made him think that she wanted to have sex with him.
He waited until she was asleep and could not consent to put his penis inside of her. In the piece, Royse contended that this nice guy is a rapist, but an accidental one who was simply confused by society’s mixed-up views on sex and sexuality.
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